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　at　yourself　that　will　allow　you　to　begin　to　like　yourself　more。 Instead　of　evaluating　yourself　in　this　moralistic　way；　begin　to　ask　questions　like：　“Did　I　do　what　I　really　wanted　to　do　in　this　situation？”“How　can　I　correct　the　misunderstanding　that　occurred？”　In　other　words；　you　can　start　to　view　what　you’ve　done　as　productive　or　non…productive　rather　than　as　good　or　bad。　If　something　is　non…productive；　you　can　focus　on　what　you　have　learned　from　it　and　try　another　approach　that　might　be　more　productive。

Over…generalizing

Another　thing　that　might　cause　you　not　to　accept　yourself　is　over…generalizing　about　something　you’ve　done　that　you　don’t　like。　So；　for　example；　if　you　fail　a　test　you　might　generalize　and　say；　“I’m　really　a　stupid　person。”　When　you　do　this　you　are　making　a　statement　about　all　of　you　all　of　the　time　and　not　just　about　this　one　situation　at　this　time。　Instead；　you　might　decide　that　your　grade　on　this　test　in　this　subject　at　this　time　was　indeed　poor；　and　then　go　on　to　decide　what　you　want　to　do　about　your　poor　grade；　if　anything。　Getting　stuck　in　over…generalizing　discourages　you　from　taking　steps　that　might　allow　you　to　do　better　on　the　next　exam　and　builds　an　expectation　of　future　failure。

學會接受自己（3）

Impossibly　High　Standards

Having　standards　that　are　impossibly　high　is　a　third　way　you　can　not　accept　yourself。　It　may　not　e　as　a　surprise　to　you　that　most　of　us　are　more　demanding　of　ourselves　than　we　are　of　others。　Somehow